In a culture still obsessed with youth, we must not forget that beauty is not bound by time. The narrative that a woman’s value diminishes with age is ridiculously outdated and dangerously misleading. Women actually become more beautiful as they grow older, not less. Their beauty deepens, enriched by layers of wisdom, experience, and an unapologetic authenticity that only time can bestow.
Although we are seeing growth in this area through the media, we are still a long way off. In modern culture, female youth is still idolised, and here lies the tragedy: men are often seen as ‘looking better with age.’ We are conditioned to believe this and conditioned to fear this evolution in ourselves.
We are sold the myth that ageing is a flaw to be corrected, an enemy to be battled with creams, serums, and surgical interventions. Nowadays, more men are jumping onto this vulnerable vessel, and the big waves of the anti-ageing industry are throwing them out one by one. This industry is built on manufactured insecurity, siphoning not just money but energy and power.
When a person invests in ‘slowing the signs of ageing,’ they inadvertently divert their attention from the vast, untapped vault of divine love within themselves.
Young women, still forming their identities, haven’t yet tapped into the vast reservoir of sacred wisdom that comes with maturity. But as we all age—men and women—we are meant to wise up! To call in stronger forces of sacred energy, vibrating with the creative power of our stories, scars, and triumphs.
I want the youngsters to know this fact because I didn’t.
I see too many young women struggling—with their sense of self, with the way they look, and, in turn, with what they do. That is still raw inside me. All the years I wasted giving my power away. I’ve witnessed first-hand complete horror stories of girls living so far away from who they truly are, changing their faces and bodies in the most horrific ways… Sadly, they probably won’t last the distance.
This is far too common. Girls—understand that we are a force to be reckoned with!
As we grow, we learn. And as we learn, our experiences become richer, and with age comes beautiful, soul-filling clarity. We see more, know more, feel more, and crucially, tolerate far less.
Let the ‘fuck it’ chapter commence!
Unleash our bullshit detectors and finely tune them until any need to conform fades into complete irrelevance. The painstaking patience that once served societal expectations must give way to boundaries forged from self-respect and ownership—owning our choices and decisions, owning when we are right and when we are wrong, and owning the fact that we should stay curious until we die.
What a gift!
Maureen Murdock’s book changed my life. The Heroine’s Journey: Woman’s Quest for Wholeness is a book every person should read. She explores themes of female power, identity, and transformation.
Right up my alley. I’m writing a book of a similar nature. But this—oh, this—I’ve read it over and over and over, over many years.
Appreciate this!
It was a big challenge to distil such vast and expansive knowledge into just 10 quotes, but these are the ones that truly stand out:
1. “The heroine’s journey is about finding the courage to break away from expectations, to chart a new course, and to reclaim the parts of herself that have been hidden, denied, or devalued.”
2. “A woman’s spiritual journey is not about separating from the feminine, but about healing the wounded feminine within and embracing it as a source of strength and wisdom.”
3. “The real power of the heroine is not in denying her vulnerability but in embracing it as a source of deep connection to herself and others.”
4. “Unlike the hero’s journey, which often glorifies conquest and external achievement, the heroine’s journey is an inward spiral, a descent into the soul to reclaim the lost, the silenced, the sacred.”
5. “Reclaiming the feminine is not about rejecting the masculine, but about restoring balance, honouring the sacredness of both, and healing the split that exists within and without.”
6. “The heroine learns that true strength comes not from armour but from authenticity, from standing in the fullness of who she is without apology.”
7. “A woman’s power is cyclical, not linear. It flows, shifts, and deepens, connected to the rhythms of life, nature, and her own evolving wisdom.”
8. “The journey home is not about returning to who we were, but becoming who we are meant to be—whole, integrated, and sovereign in our own truth.”
9. “The feminine wound is the belief that we are not enough as we are. Healing that wound is an act of radical self-love and defiance against a culture that profits from our insecurities.”
10. “The heroine’s journey invites us to confront our shadows, to sit with discomfort, and to find the sacred in the messy, imperfect, and beautiful parts of being human.”
Hopefully, these takeaways will inspire you to dive into the book and share it with your friends.
For now, imagine, for a moment, a world where every person loved themselves more with each passing year—with every line, and every experience, good or bad.
The collective energy of such self-acceptance would be revolutionary. Perhaps that’s precisely why society fears it. I know I certainly did.
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Great insights Andrea and I like the sound of that book! Once a week I pick my grandson up from school. The young mums there all look the same. It’s like looking at cloned instagram images brought to life. False eyelashes, false nails and who know what else. I am not judging them at all. I can’t because I was one of them once. We need a beauty revolution 🥰